The end of the year is upon us...already! How did that happen? It feels like we should just be starting fall. But alas, 2016 is right around the corner. A new year! A few days, weeks ahead where we make plans, promises...yes, resolutions...for the year ahead. Do they stick? Does it matter? A few weeks into the new year and we're back into our regular schedules or predictive behaviors. So, is the new year really "new" or just the same old?
I guess as the new year hits, I'll get my reflective cap on and get a sense of 2015 and what my hopes are for 2016. Yes, I'll have the energetic hopeful enthusiasm for the new year and what can be accomplished and yes, hopefully throughout the year I can execute on those goals. Hopefully I can stay consistent and determined enough to reach those goals and then look back at the end of next year with satisfaction. For this year...I'm not quite sure yet. I need to spend some quiet time reflecting on this past year and appreciate how much I've grown. I think we all grow in some way shape or form every year, but it takes acknowledging that growth and using it moving forward that really counts.
So, as this year comes to a close, I want to thank you all for continuing to share in my journey and hope that we all have a joyful, peaceful and happy new year! Blessings to you as we wrap up 2015!!
Wednesday, December 30, 2015
Sunday, December 27, 2015
Mother Nature's Fury
Yesterday we had spring-like temperatures here in Texas...it was 80 degrees and muggy all day as my mom and I did some after-Christmas shopping. So, as a cold front approached severe storms and tornadoes were unleashed in many urban locations east of DFW. The alarms where I live went off 3 times, but luckily no tornadoes developed here. But, many cities east of here were hit and had devastating results...yes, the day after Christmas. Such a tragedy during this time of year...it's even more difficult to imagine, but there's been such an outpouring of help and support from the surrounding communities.
One of the cities that was hit was the town that we moved to from Iowa over 30 years ago. My aunt and her husband still live there and luckily were also not affected by the tornadoes. But, I know so many people (friends from high school) that still live in that area and surrounding cities that were also hit by the tornadoes. Seeing the pictures of the devastation on TV this morning was heartbreaking. I'm praying for all the families affected by the tornadoes and all the families that lost a loved one in the storms. It's a terrible tragedy, but also so sad during the holiday season. It just shows us how precious life really is and it's emphasized by the true meaning of Christmas. God will see those affected through the very difficult days ahead and he will lead them out to the other side of pain and suffering.
So, as we close out another holiday season, please pray for those who were in Mother Nature's path last night and have lost all their worldly possessions. Comfort them with love, strength and support in the coming days and months ahead.
And may you be blessed this last week of 2015!
One of the cities that was hit was the town that we moved to from Iowa over 30 years ago. My aunt and her husband still live there and luckily were also not affected by the tornadoes. But, I know so many people (friends from high school) that still live in that area and surrounding cities that were also hit by the tornadoes. Seeing the pictures of the devastation on TV this morning was heartbreaking. I'm praying for all the families affected by the tornadoes and all the families that lost a loved one in the storms. It's a terrible tragedy, but also so sad during the holiday season. It just shows us how precious life really is and it's emphasized by the true meaning of Christmas. God will see those affected through the very difficult days ahead and he will lead them out to the other side of pain and suffering.
So, as we close out another holiday season, please pray for those who were in Mother Nature's path last night and have lost all their worldly possessions. Comfort them with love, strength and support in the coming days and months ahead.
And may you be blessed this last week of 2015!
Wednesday, December 23, 2015
Blessings this Christmas....
Wishing you all many blessings this Christmas! Travel safely, enjoy all of the decorated Christmas cookies, and rip open all those presents! But most importantly, may Jesus' birth remind us all of what truly matters in our lives and around the world. May the glory of his birth renew our faith and love in the world, so that peace abounds in the coming year!
Blessings to you and your family this Christmas!!
Blessings to you and your family this Christmas!!
Sunday, December 20, 2015
Have A Very Merry Christmas!!
Christmas week is here! I hope your gifts are wrapped, your menus are planned, your cookies are made and your little ones are excitedly awaiting Christmas morning! It's a magical time of the year...for the most part. For those missing loved ones, I know it's never easy so just remember the joyous memories of past Christmas's.
At church today, the sermon was about Jesus not being born at home but in a stranger's place. His birth was for you and for me so wherever Jesus is that's where "home" is. He's "home" no matter where we are and no matter where we go. And, Christmas is always about coming home...to those you love. So, remember why we celebrate as you gather for celebrations this week. It's not the presents, the food, the decorations, the sales, the cookies, or even Santa Claus...Christmas is about Jesus' birth. His salvation for ours.
Enjoy this joyous time of year and reflect on the true meaning of Christmas. I think we all need a little peace in our lives no matter where in the world we all reside. So, many blessings to you and your family this Christmas!!!
At church today, the sermon was about Jesus not being born at home but in a stranger's place. His birth was for you and for me so wherever Jesus is that's where "home" is. He's "home" no matter where we are and no matter where we go. And, Christmas is always about coming home...to those you love. So, remember why we celebrate as you gather for celebrations this week. It's not the presents, the food, the decorations, the sales, the cookies, or even Santa Claus...Christmas is about Jesus' birth. His salvation for ours.
Enjoy this joyous time of year and reflect on the true meaning of Christmas. I think we all need a little peace in our lives no matter where in the world we all reside. So, many blessings to you and your family this Christmas!!!
Wednesday, December 16, 2015
300 Posts!
Wow! I didn't realize my last post on Sunday was my 300th post!! If you just started following my blog or have been reading it since the beginning, thanks for being a part of my journey!
I really just wanted to share my positive story of adoption in hopes that it would resonate with other adoptees and provide some guidance for adoptive parents. And, in the beginning it was to share my journey of publishing my 1st book! My memoir about what it was like growing up as an adopted child. If you haven't read it yet, you can go to www.kimfenneman.com to purchase your copy today! It's not too late to order yours or to order one as a gift!
So, as this journey continues I hope you stick around to see what's coming up in 2016! I can't believe another year is over and we're about to flip the calendar into a new year...again! Where has the time gone?
Thanks again for following my journey and I hope you've enjoyed the ride as much as I have! Blessings to you this final week before Christmas!
I really just wanted to share my positive story of adoption in hopes that it would resonate with other adoptees and provide some guidance for adoptive parents. And, in the beginning it was to share my journey of publishing my 1st book! My memoir about what it was like growing up as an adopted child. If you haven't read it yet, you can go to www.kimfenneman.com to purchase your copy today! It's not too late to order yours or to order one as a gift!
So, as this journey continues I hope you stick around to see what's coming up in 2016! I can't believe another year is over and we're about to flip the calendar into a new year...again! Where has the time gone?
Thanks again for following my journey and I hope you've enjoyed the ride as much as I have! Blessings to you this final week before Christmas!
Sunday, December 13, 2015
It Feels Like Spring
For most of the U.S. we're experiencing spring-like temperatures...even across the eastern seaboard, which is highly unusual. But, what is "usual" with the weather anymore with climate change affecting our environments and el nino showing up in the weather patterns this year. It was in the mid-70's here in Texas today with a chance of "spring-like" showers in the forecast. So, it definitely doesn't feel like Christmastime.
Where's the chilly breeze, the sharp wind cutting across your face, or the hint of snowfall in the forecast? No where in the forecast yet, but I'm sure it's coming...it has to, right? Does the "right" weather for the season help you get in the festive holiday spirit or are you immune to whatever the weather wants to do? I'm somewhat immune, but I grew up in the Midwest with mountains of snowfall during the winter. So, that type of weather is reminiscent for me during this time of year. It would be nice to have but living in Texas for so many years has gotten me used to the idea that it isn't a given every Christmas.
What is a 'must' for you to have to get into the holiday spirit? If you didn't have it how does that affect how you feel about the holidays? It's interesting to think about how our environment shapes us...primarily growing up since most of our childhood memories involve mother nature to some extent. We remember a brutal blizzard, a massive hurricane or a simply beautiful sunny day at the beach. It's the background that frames those memories.
Whatever weather you're experiencing right now, enjoy it as it frames this year's holiday memories! Blessings to you this holiday season!!
Where's the chilly breeze, the sharp wind cutting across your face, or the hint of snowfall in the forecast? No where in the forecast yet, but I'm sure it's coming...it has to, right? Does the "right" weather for the season help you get in the festive holiday spirit or are you immune to whatever the weather wants to do? I'm somewhat immune, but I grew up in the Midwest with mountains of snowfall during the winter. So, that type of weather is reminiscent for me during this time of year. It would be nice to have but living in Texas for so many years has gotten me used to the idea that it isn't a given every Christmas.
What is a 'must' for you to have to get into the holiday spirit? If you didn't have it how does that affect how you feel about the holidays? It's interesting to think about how our environment shapes us...primarily growing up since most of our childhood memories involve mother nature to some extent. We remember a brutal blizzard, a massive hurricane or a simply beautiful sunny day at the beach. It's the background that frames those memories.
Whatever weather you're experiencing right now, enjoy it as it frames this year's holiday memories! Blessings to you this holiday season!!
Wednesday, December 9, 2015
Acceptance
Acceptance of others is a hot topic all around the world and especially here in the States right now. Acceptance of individuals who are different than ourselves. Acceptance of others religious beliefs. It's a word at the core of what shapes our world...decisions that are made, how we perceive things/people/situations, and it starts with the acceptance of ourselves. All of our flaws, mistakes, triumphs, hopes, dreams...all start with acceptance.
How did we get so far away from that basic core principal? When did "being politically correct" start? For me, it started there when everyone tried not to offend one another for this and that and we had to be more "politically correct". Who said we had to be? It just permeated our social culture and became prevalent. Now, with social media and trying to find constant acceptance and validation for things that we post it's only in-flamed our desires for more and more acceptance for our actions and things that we say. Does it make them any more true, right or good for humanity? In the most part, no. Sadly, these are the days we are living in and hurtful, harmful words are flung all over the place (primarily on social media) each and every day.
How do we stop it? Unfortunately, we don't. But, we can choose not to read it, subscribe to it, support it or encourage it. We can take a stand and be the positive, supportive and respectful change we want to see in the world. We can make a difference. Hate can be overcome by love, respect, and understanding...not fear. So, choose to surround yourself with positive messages, kind people and reflect that to others.
Blessings to you the rest of the week for positive messages, caring hearts around you, and peace on earth...goodwill toward ALL men/women/children!
How did we get so far away from that basic core principal? When did "being politically correct" start? For me, it started there when everyone tried not to offend one another for this and that and we had to be more "politically correct". Who said we had to be? It just permeated our social culture and became prevalent. Now, with social media and trying to find constant acceptance and validation for things that we post it's only in-flamed our desires for more and more acceptance for our actions and things that we say. Does it make them any more true, right or good for humanity? In the most part, no. Sadly, these are the days we are living in and hurtful, harmful words are flung all over the place (primarily on social media) each and every day.
How do we stop it? Unfortunately, we don't. But, we can choose not to read it, subscribe to it, support it or encourage it. We can take a stand and be the positive, supportive and respectful change we want to see in the world. We can make a difference. Hate can be overcome by love, respect, and understanding...not fear. So, choose to surround yourself with positive messages, kind people and reflect that to others.
Blessings to you the rest of the week for positive messages, caring hearts around you, and peace on earth...goodwill toward ALL men/women/children!
Monday, December 7, 2015
Holiday Cheer
We're in the middle of the "most wonderful time of year" as many call it, Christmastime! Are you and your family full throttle into the yuletide cheer or are you stressed out by all the holiday to-do's...or are you worried about current world affairs (i.e. Paris attacks, San Bernardino shootings, terrorism in general)? How do we balance protecting ourselves and our loved ones with celebrating the most joyous time of the year?
I think we're all trying to figure that out. It seems like we're all struggling a little with the new normal of trying to balance personal safety and peace of mind with the socialism of Christmas and what Christmas truly means. Christmas is about the birth of a baby, our Savior, and what his birth means in the Christian faith. It is overwhelmingly overshadowed by what we've all turned it into...Black Friday before Black Friday, cyber Monday, tree lightings and parties that are about showcasing who the best party host can be and not centering in on what the true meaning of Christmas is and why we are all celebrating it. If we all pulled back from the madness of the season and took heart of the true meaning of Christmas, not only at this time of year but all year, maybe we would be kinder to our neighbors, more understanding of that "crazy" person we just saw make a scene at the mall, or the person that simply "looks" different than we do that we judge immediately. The fact is....we're all HUMAN. We all truly want the same things in life...to love, to be safe and protected, to share our lives with our friends and family and to feel free to live the lives we want. Yes, there are variations to that but at the core we all just want to be ourselves and live our lives. The word "freedom" often gets tossed around, but we do have a lot of freedoms living in the United States that others across the world do not have. Many of those freedoms we take for granted everyday because we are so accustomed to having them. We don't know what it's like not to have them. So, as we all work through (in our own ways) getting through the holiday season, looking back on the year that was and looking to a new year ahead let us take time to search our souls for what truly matters in our lives, how we want to improve ourselves and the world around us and how we can let our lights shine but even more how we can help others let their lights shine! Then, maybe in some small way the world around us will seem less dark and scary and we can unite with our fellow man to create the world we want...and the one we deserve!
May God bless you today and everyday!!
I think we're all trying to figure that out. It seems like we're all struggling a little with the new normal of trying to balance personal safety and peace of mind with the socialism of Christmas and what Christmas truly means. Christmas is about the birth of a baby, our Savior, and what his birth means in the Christian faith. It is overwhelmingly overshadowed by what we've all turned it into...Black Friday before Black Friday, cyber Monday, tree lightings and parties that are about showcasing who the best party host can be and not centering in on what the true meaning of Christmas is and why we are all celebrating it. If we all pulled back from the madness of the season and took heart of the true meaning of Christmas, not only at this time of year but all year, maybe we would be kinder to our neighbors, more understanding of that "crazy" person we just saw make a scene at the mall, or the person that simply "looks" different than we do that we judge immediately. The fact is....we're all HUMAN. We all truly want the same things in life...to love, to be safe and protected, to share our lives with our friends and family and to feel free to live the lives we want. Yes, there are variations to that but at the core we all just want to be ourselves and live our lives. The word "freedom" often gets tossed around, but we do have a lot of freedoms living in the United States that others across the world do not have. Many of those freedoms we take for granted everyday because we are so accustomed to having them. We don't know what it's like not to have them. So, as we all work through (in our own ways) getting through the holiday season, looking back on the year that was and looking to a new year ahead let us take time to search our souls for what truly matters in our lives, how we want to improve ourselves and the world around us and how we can let our lights shine but even more how we can help others let their lights shine! Then, maybe in some small way the world around us will seem less dark and scary and we can unite with our fellow man to create the world we want...and the one we deserve!
May God bless you today and everyday!!
Wednesday, December 2, 2015
Another One?!
Another mass shooting has happened...this time in San Bernardino, CA. What is this world coming to? It seems like it's a weekly story now. It's such a sad occurrence that seemingly is not as shocking as it used to be...when it only seemed to happen a couple times a year. I just saw a post on Facebook from The Huffington Post that "There have been at least 352 mass shootings in the 336 days of 2015." That's a very sad and disturbing statistic.
Where's the hope...the respect for one another? Where has compassion and understanding gone? Where is the love? We all need more love and respect for one another in our lives and MORE PEACE! Peace in our hearts and minds.
Prayers for those affected by the San Bernardino shooting and prayers that law enforcement is able to capture the shooters. May we all find more compassion for one another!
Blessings to you today and stay safe wherever you are!
Where's the hope...the respect for one another? Where has compassion and understanding gone? Where is the love? We all need more love and respect for one another in our lives and MORE PEACE! Peace in our hearts and minds.
Prayers for those affected by the San Bernardino shooting and prayers that law enforcement is able to capture the shooters. May we all find more compassion for one another!
Blessings to you today and stay safe wherever you are!
Sunday, November 29, 2015
Happy Holidays!!
The holiday season is here! Whether you're ready for them or not! I really still can't believe it's that time of the year already, but alas, I've been getting some of my holiday decorations out this weekend. It's been perfect weather for staying in and decorating all weekend, as it's been raining...raining...raining since Thursday. After being inside the past several days I'm in desperate need of some sunny skies and some retail therapy, since I passed on all the Black Friday shopping this year. Too cold and rainy for me!
I'm only getting out about 1/3 of my Christmas decorations this year, so a little trimmed down for me. But, it's still a bit of a chore going through 9 storage bins to find exactly what I'm looking for! Ha! Yes, I said 9! Crazy. I bought a smaller, lovely frosted tree with berries and pine cones on it last year so that I didn't have to pull out my 6' tree and all my decorations. This one I could just put up and be done with it! So, that's what I pulled out yesterday and put up! Oh how I love the glow of Christmas tree lights in the dark. I could sit in a room with Christmas tree lights on all the time!!
One last look-thru all my storage bins for a few more items today and then I'm done decorating! My cards are all done and ready to be mailed tomorrow, and I just have a few more gifts to buy before I'm done! Then, I can just sit back and enjoy all the holiday festivities without all the to-do's.
I've still got a lot of regular to-do's on my list, but that's normal. How do you handle the holiday stress of getting everything done...AND enjoying all the festivities? Doesn't it seem non-stop for about 4 weeks?! Well, get ready...it's here!
Don't forget to take time to enjoy the holiday season and to appreciate all the blessings in your life. Sometimes it's hard to enjoy the simple things during this holiday season when we are running around shopping, baking, attending holiday parties, etc. So, take a minute each day and just breathe in the blessings of the day.
I wish you many blessings this holiday season!!
I'm only getting out about 1/3 of my Christmas decorations this year, so a little trimmed down for me. But, it's still a bit of a chore going through 9 storage bins to find exactly what I'm looking for! Ha! Yes, I said 9! Crazy. I bought a smaller, lovely frosted tree with berries and pine cones on it last year so that I didn't have to pull out my 6' tree and all my decorations. This one I could just put up and be done with it! So, that's what I pulled out yesterday and put up! Oh how I love the glow of Christmas tree lights in the dark. I could sit in a room with Christmas tree lights on all the time!!
One last look-thru all my storage bins for a few more items today and then I'm done decorating! My cards are all done and ready to be mailed tomorrow, and I just have a few more gifts to buy before I'm done! Then, I can just sit back and enjoy all the holiday festivities without all the to-do's.
I've still got a lot of regular to-do's on my list, but that's normal. How do you handle the holiday stress of getting everything done...AND enjoying all the festivities? Doesn't it seem non-stop for about 4 weeks?! Well, get ready...it's here!
Don't forget to take time to enjoy the holiday season and to appreciate all the blessings in your life. Sometimes it's hard to enjoy the simple things during this holiday season when we are running around shopping, baking, attending holiday parties, etc. So, take a minute each day and just breathe in the blessings of the day.
I wish you many blessings this holiday season!!
Wednesday, November 25, 2015
Happy Thanksgiving!!
Happy Thanksgiving (to all those in the U.S.)!! I hope everyone has a wonderful day with family and friends! Enjoy all the wonderful food, football games, and even some early Black Friday shopping! Safe travels and wishing you a blessed holiday season!
Monday, November 23, 2015
Off Balance...
Yes, my calendar is off a bit lately...sorry about that. My days are running together and of course this week it's all about Thanksgiving Day...and then Black Friday...and then cyber Monday! The craziest shopping time of the year!! Are you ready?
Well, if I can ever get my timing back I'll be good. As I mentioned in my last post, I think this time of year speeds up a bit and things are a little more chaotic (due to the holidays and all the festivities going on). So, I think I'm already feeling a bit off balance by it all. Plus, I literally felt off balance late last week as I think I experienced my first bout of vertigo. It wasn't fun and definitely unexpected. So, it took a couple days to get over that. Is it a little ironic that I'm off balance in my head which in turn put me physically off balance? Ha...probably not!
This week's goal: get back on track, organize and enjoy some turkey...and then SHOPPING!! I hope the same for you (if it's needed). Because it's only going to get crazier with Christmas decorating, gifts to wrap, Christmas cards to write, cookies to bake, tree lightings to go see, parties to partake in and all the fun that Christmas has to offer! So, enjoy it, try to stay sane and stay safe!
Blessings to you this holiday week! Have a filling week...full of great food, family and thankful hearts!
Well, if I can ever get my timing back I'll be good. As I mentioned in my last post, I think this time of year speeds up a bit and things are a little more chaotic (due to the holidays and all the festivities going on). So, I think I'm already feeling a bit off balance by it all. Plus, I literally felt off balance late last week as I think I experienced my first bout of vertigo. It wasn't fun and definitely unexpected. So, it took a couple days to get over that. Is it a little ironic that I'm off balance in my head which in turn put me physically off balance? Ha...probably not!
This week's goal: get back on track, organize and enjoy some turkey...and then SHOPPING!! I hope the same for you (if it's needed). Because it's only going to get crazier with Christmas decorating, gifts to wrap, Christmas cards to write, cookies to bake, tree lightings to go see, parties to partake in and all the fun that Christmas has to offer! So, enjoy it, try to stay sane and stay safe!
Blessings to you this holiday week! Have a filling week...full of great food, family and thankful hearts!
Thursday, November 19, 2015
What's Today?
Sorry, got my days mixed up this week and Wednesday came and went...and now it's Thursday! Yikes! I think it's a symptom of the holidays approaching when everything seems to speed up and the to-do list triples in length! I really can't believe next week is Thanksgiving (in the US) already! Where has the time gone? This year has flown by!
Another year full of changes and (it seems these days) constant turmoil in the world. We're all inundated by the 24-hour news cycle with everything that is going on in the world, so how do we shut it off and just live our lives? Live, grow, support, nurture our own communities, neighborhoods and families...it takes making it all a priority in our own lives. To know what is important in our lives and then focus on that. It's always easier said than done when we all have daily responsibilities to deal with, but I think we all also want more from our daily lives...to contribute more, to get more back, to give more, to feel inspired more, to feel more love in the world. How do we get there? How can we change the world?
One step at a time! We all have a voice. We all have abilities, talents and gifts that we can share with one another. But, what we need more of is respect for one another NO MATTER OUR DIFFERENCES! We need more human compassion, understanding and love in the world!!!
Lets all make an effort in our own lives, our own little spaces on this planet to BE THE CHANGE we want to see in the world! To consciously show love to others rather than judgment or looking away, and to embrace our own acceptance of loving our selves...it starts there first! Peace be with you...in your hearts and in your souls. Peace be with the world...to unite, stand strong and love one another!!
Blessings to each one of you this week!
Another year full of changes and (it seems these days) constant turmoil in the world. We're all inundated by the 24-hour news cycle with everything that is going on in the world, so how do we shut it off and just live our lives? Live, grow, support, nurture our own communities, neighborhoods and families...it takes making it all a priority in our own lives. To know what is important in our lives and then focus on that. It's always easier said than done when we all have daily responsibilities to deal with, but I think we all also want more from our daily lives...to contribute more, to get more back, to give more, to feel inspired more, to feel more love in the world. How do we get there? How can we change the world?
One step at a time! We all have a voice. We all have abilities, talents and gifts that we can share with one another. But, what we need more of is respect for one another NO MATTER OUR DIFFERENCES! We need more human compassion, understanding and love in the world!!!
Lets all make an effort in our own lives, our own little spaces on this planet to BE THE CHANGE we want to see in the world! To consciously show love to others rather than judgment or looking away, and to embrace our own acceptance of loving our selves...it starts there first! Peace be with you...in your hearts and in your souls. Peace be with the world...to unite, stand strong and love one another!!
Blessings to each one of you this week!
Sunday, November 15, 2015
Pray for Paris
I think we ALL stand UNITED with Paris after the recent terrorist attacks there. The scale and number of locations hit were definitely a shock to all of us. Why is there such hatred and anger in the world that manifests itself into such heinous acts of violence?
I've been trying to teach my oldest nephew (who is 10) that if we all had more respect, understand and humanity for one another much of the violence in the world would be diminished. He agreed. But, it's always easier said than done. Bottom line is...we're ALL human beings. Everything else just gets in the way...gender, sex, religion, cultures, etc...it's what makes us all different, special and unique, but also tears us a part because we haven't learned to appreciate and respect one another FOR our differences. How do we make that mental shift in a broader, more meaningful way? In a way that will change the world we live in today...and all the days that follow.
We all process these kinds of violence differently (based on our past experiences and knowledge), but the majority of us have that light of humanity in us that knows this cannot be tolerated and that we must all stand together to stand up to the violence. We are strong...TOGETHER! We are brave...and UNITED!! We are human...full of LOVE!!!
Praying for Paris!!! Praying for you! Praying for all of humanity!
I've been trying to teach my oldest nephew (who is 10) that if we all had more respect, understand and humanity for one another much of the violence in the world would be diminished. He agreed. But, it's always easier said than done. Bottom line is...we're ALL human beings. Everything else just gets in the way...gender, sex, religion, cultures, etc...it's what makes us all different, special and unique, but also tears us a part because we haven't learned to appreciate and respect one another FOR our differences. How do we make that mental shift in a broader, more meaningful way? In a way that will change the world we live in today...and all the days that follow.
We all process these kinds of violence differently (based on our past experiences and knowledge), but the majority of us have that light of humanity in us that knows this cannot be tolerated and that we must all stand together to stand up to the violence. We are strong...TOGETHER! We are brave...and UNITED!! We are human...full of LOVE!!!
Praying for Paris!!! Praying for you! Praying for all of humanity!
Wednesday, November 11, 2015
Happy Veteran's Day!
For all those that have served in our military, THANK YOU!!! Thank you for your service, your bravery, and your sacrifice for your country and your fellow man!
We honor our men and women who have served our great country today, but we should honor and remember them everyday! They have and continue to provide the freedoms we all take for granted every day. And, we need to demand the government get the veteran care they deserve from our VA hospitals and clinics! It's such a travesty what our veterans have to go through just to get quality and timely health care. Lets stand up and support them! They deserve that from every one of us!
So, thank you veterans! Happy Veteran's Day!!!
And, thank you personally to my Dad who fought in the Vietnam War. As a Purple Heart recipient, he's the epitome of bravery and sacrifice. I'm thankful for his service and grateful to be his daughter.
Blessings to all our veterans today and everyday!
We honor our men and women who have served our great country today, but we should honor and remember them everyday! They have and continue to provide the freedoms we all take for granted every day. And, we need to demand the government get the veteran care they deserve from our VA hospitals and clinics! It's such a travesty what our veterans have to go through just to get quality and timely health care. Lets stand up and support them! They deserve that from every one of us!
So, thank you veterans! Happy Veteran's Day!!!
And, thank you personally to my Dad who fought in the Vietnam War. As a Purple Heart recipient, he's the epitome of bravery and sacrifice. I'm thankful for his service and grateful to be his daughter.
Blessings to all our veterans today and everyday!
Monday, November 9, 2015
Expect the Unexpected
Sorry I missed yesterday's post (as we had a family tragedy over the weekend). Life is so unexpected and shocking at times...some good, some bad. And sometimes it takes awhile to wrap your head around it...only time can provide answers, solace and peace.
It's hard to make sense of tragedies when they happen, as most of the time there is never a clear reason why they happen. We all search for answers or at least some understanding when bad things happen and sometimes there is no reason. It just happened...it was an accident...but that doesn't give us any comfort or answers.
There are too many emotions to work through, but again time will work it out. Sadness, grief, anger, confusion, etc. may seem never-ending for awhile, but they will all work themselves through and out of your system...coming and going...and then at some point in time in the future there will be a calm, a peace that overcomes you that lets you know everything will be OK again. Give it time.
Yes, things can change in an instant which is why it's SO important to be present and grateful for every moment we're given. It's a blessing and a gift...each and every day we wake up and then close our eyes each night. Say a prayer for those in such despair that they cannot see the light. The clouds will part again and the light WILL shine in!
Blessings to you this week!
It's hard to make sense of tragedies when they happen, as most of the time there is never a clear reason why they happen. We all search for answers or at least some understanding when bad things happen and sometimes there is no reason. It just happened...it was an accident...but that doesn't give us any comfort or answers.
There are too many emotions to work through, but again time will work it out. Sadness, grief, anger, confusion, etc. may seem never-ending for awhile, but they will all work themselves through and out of your system...coming and going...and then at some point in time in the future there will be a calm, a peace that overcomes you that lets you know everything will be OK again. Give it time.
Yes, things can change in an instant which is why it's SO important to be present and grateful for every moment we're given. It's a blessing and a gift...each and every day we wake up and then close our eyes each night. Say a prayer for those in such despair that they cannot see the light. The clouds will part again and the light WILL shine in!
Blessings to you this week!
Wednesday, November 4, 2015
Happy National Adoption Month!
November is National Adoption Month! What does that mean to you? To me? It means we shed some light and more awareness on the joys of adoption, the realities of adoption and what issues are currently facing adoption. The joys are many and hopefully are shared with others to encourage, support and inspire others to do the same! The realities of adoption are as varied and numerous as the colors in a prism. We all have different stories, different perspectives on adoption and different journeys as adoptees and adoptive parents. And, the issues that currently affect many adoptions/adoptees/adoptive parents are also too numerous to discuss here. But, know this....we all share this common bond that gives/saves a life. Life is a precious gift and it's YOUR choice on how to live that life! It's not the circumstances behind your life that define you...meaning, being adopted doesn't have to define who you are unless you want it to...it's your heart, your soul, the decisions you make in YOUR own life that define WHO YOU ARE!!! So, embrace your life where you are, continue to find hope and faith for a brighter and more fulfilling tomorrow, and then give back.
Whatever National Adoption Month means to you take some time to reflect and determine what you can do to give back, make a difference or just simply share your story with someone new. Our voices can make a loud impact...no matter what we want to call attention to, so just do your part and we can bring greater awareness to adoption this month...and beyond!
Whatever National Adoption Month means to you take some time to reflect and determine what you can do to give back, make a difference or just simply share your story with someone new. Our voices can make a loud impact...no matter what we want to call attention to, so just do your part and we can bring greater awareness to adoption this month...and beyond!
Blessings to you for sharing your story and letting your voice be heard!
Sunday, November 1, 2015
Fall Back.....
It's been fun seeing all the Halloween postings on Facebook...lots of cute, scary and fun costumes! Along with all the Halloween festivities for all the kiddos, it was also time to fall back and set our clocks back an hour. Ahhh, that extra hour of sleep was definitely appreciated!
How does the time change affect you? It does take a couple weeks, at least for me, to get used to it getting dark around 5-5:30 pm. Since, I'm a morning person it's nice that it's lighter in the mornings, but those early dark evenings are hard to adjust to for awhile. I don't think it bothers me too much, other than wanting to go to bed earlier perhaps for awhile. Otherwise, fall is my favorite time of year, so I'm ready for the cooler temperatures, leaves changing color and hot chocolate to warm me up!
Just another season...nature's season...but, we all go through different seasons of life, too. Some come and go, some are brand new and some we'd rather forget, but they are all seasons that show us a new perspective, push us forward and hopefully make us a better person in one way, shape or form after the season has passed. They aren't as predictable as the four seasons of mother nature, but the lend themselves as the backdrops to our life's journeys and the seasons that we encounter.
So, enjoy the season you are in and make memories that will carry into the next season! We might have fallen back with our clocks, but may we move forward with faith, joy and love today and everyday!! Many blessings to you this first day of November!
How does the time change affect you? It does take a couple weeks, at least for me, to get used to it getting dark around 5-5:30 pm. Since, I'm a morning person it's nice that it's lighter in the mornings, but those early dark evenings are hard to adjust to for awhile. I don't think it bothers me too much, other than wanting to go to bed earlier perhaps for awhile. Otherwise, fall is my favorite time of year, so I'm ready for the cooler temperatures, leaves changing color and hot chocolate to warm me up!
Just another season...nature's season...but, we all go through different seasons of life, too. Some come and go, some are brand new and some we'd rather forget, but they are all seasons that show us a new perspective, push us forward and hopefully make us a better person in one way, shape or form after the season has passed. They aren't as predictable as the four seasons of mother nature, but the lend themselves as the backdrops to our life's journeys and the seasons that we encounter.
So, enjoy the season you are in and make memories that will carry into the next season! We might have fallen back with our clocks, but may we move forward with faith, joy and love today and everyday!! Many blessings to you this first day of November!
Wednesday, October 28, 2015
Happy Halloween!
Hallows Eve is almost upon us. Unfortunately it's supposed to rain here in Texas on Friday and Saturday for most of the day, but they say it will stop raining by the time Trick or Treaters greet our doorsteps!
I've never been a huge fan of Halloween. I'm sure I liked it when I was younger...although those plastic masks with the holes in the eyes and mouth weren't the greatest...costumes have definitely evolved since then. I'm just not into scary movies, silly costumes or any of the other hoopla that comes with Halloween. It just doesn't 'float my boat' as far as the major holidays go.
But, it is fun to see my nephews and nieces dressed up in cute costumes. They enjoy it! And, that's really all that matters. What's your least favorite holiday?
No matter, I hope you all have a fun, safe, and scary Halloween wherever you are! Enjoy all the candy and trick or treaters!! And, have a blessed holiday!
I've never been a huge fan of Halloween. I'm sure I liked it when I was younger...although those plastic masks with the holes in the eyes and mouth weren't the greatest...costumes have definitely evolved since then. I'm just not into scary movies, silly costumes or any of the other hoopla that comes with Halloween. It just doesn't 'float my boat' as far as the major holidays go.
But, it is fun to see my nephews and nieces dressed up in cute costumes. They enjoy it! And, that's really all that matters. What's your least favorite holiday?
No matter, I hope you all have a fun, safe, and scary Halloween wherever you are! Enjoy all the candy and trick or treaters!! And, have a blessed holiday!
Sunday, October 25, 2015
Already Found Out...
As you know (if you've been following my most recent posts), I submitted a DNA test several weeks ago...after it had been sitting on my kitchen counter for months...so, I've just been waiting for the results for the past few weeks. Then I find out last night from my oldest nephew that he did a DNA test at school and already has his results! Come on. Really? A 10 year-old beat me?!
He was pretty intrigued by it all though and shared his results. He talked about the other side of his family's ancestry and we shared with him our side of the ancestry we knew about. It was nice to see him interested in the topic and where his ancestors came from. Perhaps he'll dig further into it one day and find some interesting characters. There's always one or two in the bunch, right? Black sheep? Hero?
That's why I love that show "So Who Do You Think You Are" that looks into the ancestry of famous people. It's quite fascinating and really makes you want to look into your own family history. Check it out sometime!
Have you or anyone in your family looked into your ancestors? Have you found anything juicy? It's a fun and interesting puzzle to try and put together! We should all want to know more about our past, our histories, our inherited traits and where that all comes from. You never know, there may already be a family tree out there that someone has already started on Ancestry.com. Check it out! Why not?!
So, as I continue to wait for my results a new week is ahead. May you have many blessings this week and enjoy the final full week of October!!
He was pretty intrigued by it all though and shared his results. He talked about the other side of his family's ancestry and we shared with him our side of the ancestry we knew about. It was nice to see him interested in the topic and where his ancestors came from. Perhaps he'll dig further into it one day and find some interesting characters. There's always one or two in the bunch, right? Black sheep? Hero?
That's why I love that show "So Who Do You Think You Are" that looks into the ancestry of famous people. It's quite fascinating and really makes you want to look into your own family history. Check it out sometime!
Have you or anyone in your family looked into your ancestors? Have you found anything juicy? It's a fun and interesting puzzle to try and put together! We should all want to know more about our past, our histories, our inherited traits and where that all comes from. You never know, there may already be a family tree out there that someone has already started on Ancestry.com. Check it out! Why not?!
So, as I continue to wait for my results a new week is ahead. May you have many blessings this week and enjoy the final full week of October!!
Wednesday, October 21, 2015
Winds of Change....
You've probably heard this before, "the winds of change are coming", right? Well, it's definitely true for me right now. Sometimes you can feel things leading up to the change, so you feel it coming. Sometimes it slaps you upside the head with no notice at all. Sometimes it's subtle and changes come gradually. However the winds come...strong or breezy...they still come.
Life takes twists and turns all the time. Well, sometimes it feels like it's been forever since anything has changed and then, bam! Change is on your doorstep! Change is something we all have to adjust to throughout our lives. Something we have to learn to accept as it comes...and comes...and comes. That's a given, change will always occur in one's life, so you better get used to it. The more you can be open to and accepting of change the easier it will be...on your heart and your head!
This change was definitely unexpected, but I had asked for it. I had been praying to God for this very thing and he made it happen...just in a very unexpected way. I completely didn't see it coming! But, He answered my prayers...literally, truthfully. So, all I can say is "God you have a great sense of humor!" So, I'm totally open to this change and I have no fear or worries about it. All is well with my soul! It truly, truly is.
Change can bring about many emotions depending on what the change is forcing you to do...grow, move on, confront an issue, be better, do better, etc. It's how we react to it and what we do with it that matters most. And, this might be the first time in a long time that I'm completely at peace with this change. It doesn't always happen when change comes, but as I said earlier the more you can be open to and accept change the better off you will be. So, I feel hopeful and am excited about the future! I know God has it all worked out and I have faith in his journey for me.
So, whatever change you may be dealing with right now have faith that it will make you better, make you stronger in your relationships, and it's the right time for it. Stay strong! Many blessings for your journey of change!!
Life takes twists and turns all the time. Well, sometimes it feels like it's been forever since anything has changed and then, bam! Change is on your doorstep! Change is something we all have to adjust to throughout our lives. Something we have to learn to accept as it comes...and comes...and comes. That's a given, change will always occur in one's life, so you better get used to it. The more you can be open to and accepting of change the easier it will be...on your heart and your head!
This change was definitely unexpected, but I had asked for it. I had been praying to God for this very thing and he made it happen...just in a very unexpected way. I completely didn't see it coming! But, He answered my prayers...literally, truthfully. So, all I can say is "God you have a great sense of humor!" So, I'm totally open to this change and I have no fear or worries about it. All is well with my soul! It truly, truly is.
Change can bring about many emotions depending on what the change is forcing you to do...grow, move on, confront an issue, be better, do better, etc. It's how we react to it and what we do with it that matters most. And, this might be the first time in a long time that I'm completely at peace with this change. It doesn't always happen when change comes, but as I said earlier the more you can be open to and accept change the better off you will be. So, I feel hopeful and am excited about the future! I know God has it all worked out and I have faith in his journey for me.
So, whatever change you may be dealing with right now have faith that it will make you better, make you stronger in your relationships, and it's the right time for it. Stay strong! Many blessings for your journey of change!!
Sunday, October 18, 2015
Waiting on Results...
So, I'm still waiting on my DNA test results that I finally submitted several weeks ago. As mentioned in one of my previous posts, I had not really thought too much about the test/the results prior to actually submitting the test. But, now that I have submitted it I've wondered a bit more and more each day as I wait for the results.
Will it define who I am? No. But, it will tell me more about where I came from and where my ancestors came from...even if I never take that next step to look for and find my relatives. That's another journey in and of itself (as many of you already know and have gone through that journey yourselves). As I've also mentioned in my book, we (adoptees) all have our own timing when our curiosity drives us to find some of those lingering answers about our past. I'm not sure that those that questions drove me to take the DNA test...for me, it was more that the opportunity presented itself and I chose to take it. Some jumped on that decision right away for their own reasons. We all have similar questions and answers that we'd like answered, but we also have our own time in which we take action to find those answers.
So, if you are the adopee, take as much time as you need, trust yourself and seek out the questions you are only ready to get the answers to. One step at a time...no rush. If you are the adoptive parent, just be there to support your child in whatever decisions they make and in whatever timeframe they feel is right. And if you are a friend/spouse/sibling/etc, be understanding and patient in your support, as well as, encouraging and supportive. We all have an incredible life journey we embark on each day we wake up and being there for one another to enjoy, support and love one another in that process is what it's all about.
So, whatever questions you are asking now, whatever actions you have taken to answer them and/or whatever place you are in right now it's all OK. It's right where you were supposed to be. So, embrace the journey and find joy in your day.
Many blessings to you this week and in your search for answers...whenever they come.
Will it define who I am? No. But, it will tell me more about where I came from and where my ancestors came from...even if I never take that next step to look for and find my relatives. That's another journey in and of itself (as many of you already know and have gone through that journey yourselves). As I've also mentioned in my book, we (adoptees) all have our own timing when our curiosity drives us to find some of those lingering answers about our past. I'm not sure that those that questions drove me to take the DNA test...for me, it was more that the opportunity presented itself and I chose to take it. Some jumped on that decision right away for their own reasons. We all have similar questions and answers that we'd like answered, but we also have our own time in which we take action to find those answers.
So, if you are the adopee, take as much time as you need, trust yourself and seek out the questions you are only ready to get the answers to. One step at a time...no rush. If you are the adoptive parent, just be there to support your child in whatever decisions they make and in whatever timeframe they feel is right. And if you are a friend/spouse/sibling/etc, be understanding and patient in your support, as well as, encouraging and supportive. We all have an incredible life journey we embark on each day we wake up and being there for one another to enjoy, support and love one another in that process is what it's all about.
So, whatever questions you are asking now, whatever actions you have taken to answer them and/or whatever place you are in right now it's all OK. It's right where you were supposed to be. So, embrace the journey and find joy in your day.
Many blessings to you this week and in your search for answers...whenever they come.
Thursday, October 15, 2015
Nerve-wracking
I couldn't get to the site yesterday, so sorry for the late post. It was a nerve-wracking afternoon...why, you ask? Our Texas Rangers were playing game 5 of the ALDS. I know it's not the most important thing in the world, but for them to even be in the playoffs this year was truly a gritty effort all throughout the season. So, to watch a winner take all game it was intense from the start! It ended up being a very crazy and in the end very disappointing loss for us...one that will take a little while to get over.
I've realized watching this ALDS series (best of 5) that I don't enjoy watching my team play. Why? Because I'm a nervous wreck! I can't enjoy it. I'm anxious, nervous and it's gut-wrenching when it all goes bad, especially in such high stakes situations. So, it's probably good news for me...health-wise...that we're out of the playoffs now. But, it was a fun ride! You just never know what is going to happen from game to game.
That's the same with life, as well. Who knows what the day will bring as we wake up each morning. We might have it all planned out and at the end of the day none of that planning worked out the way you thought or hoped it would. That's life and it's how well you can adapt, be flexible and not get too caught up in things that will determine if you're satisfied and/or content with each day as you lay your head down each night. Life can be unpredictable as we all know and no matter what, it comes down to what we believe, how we control our emotions and how we react to any given situation that will determine our course in any given day.
So, as my heart rate goes back to normal today I'm blessed and ready for whatever today brings my way! The sun is shining, I have my health and I really have nothing to complain about. So, take a new view, a new perspective and try to see life in a new light. It will give you a greater view of the world, your situation and hopefully help you grow.
Have a truly blessed day and enjoy your view!
I've realized watching this ALDS series (best of 5) that I don't enjoy watching my team play. Why? Because I'm a nervous wreck! I can't enjoy it. I'm anxious, nervous and it's gut-wrenching when it all goes bad, especially in such high stakes situations. So, it's probably good news for me...health-wise...that we're out of the playoffs now. But, it was a fun ride! You just never know what is going to happen from game to game.
That's the same with life, as well. Who knows what the day will bring as we wake up each morning. We might have it all planned out and at the end of the day none of that planning worked out the way you thought or hoped it would. That's life and it's how well you can adapt, be flexible and not get too caught up in things that will determine if you're satisfied and/or content with each day as you lay your head down each night. Life can be unpredictable as we all know and no matter what, it comes down to what we believe, how we control our emotions and how we react to any given situation that will determine our course in any given day.
So, as my heart rate goes back to normal today I'm blessed and ready for whatever today brings my way! The sun is shining, I have my health and I really have nothing to complain about. So, take a new view, a new perspective and try to see life in a new light. It will give you a greater view of the world, your situation and hopefully help you grow.
Have a truly blessed day and enjoy your view!
Sunday, October 11, 2015
President's Cup
The PGA's President's Cup is being played in South Korea this weekend! I had no idea it was being played there until I just turned on the broadcast of the event. They said the normal temperatures this time of year are around the 70's, but they are currently playing in 50 degree weather! That's a bit frigid for golf players and their normal summertime temps. No wonder they're all bundled up...which is a little strange to see on a golf course.
No matter, the President's Cup and the Ryder Cup are always nail biting games on the last day since it's single play...one person against another. One country against the world. And, it usually comes down to the last few matches which is always exciting. It's fun to watch these normally single competitors root for and back their fellow countrymen, especially in those final matches. Camaraderie with your fellow countrymen is fun to watch...who is friends with who, who is the loudest cheerleader for their team, and who ends up coming out victorious? It's fun to watch!
So, no matter what side of the world you live on or who you are rooting for, enjoy the competition, the great shots and the near misses! Who can handle the pressure and who can execute when the win is on the line?! Stay tuned! Although, since it was played in South Korea and the time difference, I actually already know the U.S. team won! But, it's still fun to watch the teams battle it out!
Enjoy the rest of your Sunday and have a truly blessed week ahead!
No matter, the President's Cup and the Ryder Cup are always nail biting games on the last day since it's single play...one person against another. One country against the world. And, it usually comes down to the last few matches which is always exciting. It's fun to watch these normally single competitors root for and back their fellow countrymen, especially in those final matches. Camaraderie with your fellow countrymen is fun to watch...who is friends with who, who is the loudest cheerleader for their team, and who ends up coming out victorious? It's fun to watch!
So, no matter what side of the world you live on or who you are rooting for, enjoy the competition, the great shots and the near misses! Who can handle the pressure and who can execute when the win is on the line?! Stay tuned! Although, since it was played in South Korea and the time difference, I actually already know the U.S. team won! But, it's still fun to watch the teams battle it out!
Enjoy the rest of your Sunday and have a truly blessed week ahead!
Wednesday, October 7, 2015
Do You Have a Copy?
Do you have your very own copy of "Corn-fed with Rice on the Side" yet? Why not? What are you waiting for? It's a very light-hearted and easy read. So, don't wait any longer! Get yours today! Go to www.kimfenneman.com to purchase an autographed copy or get the ebook version. You'll laugh a little, see yourself in some of the stories and enjoy learning about someone else's journey...whether similar or not to yours. Go! Get it!!
And blessings for the rest of your week...while reading my book! ;-)
And blessings for the rest of your week...while reading my book! ;-)
Sunday, October 4, 2015
Chaos and Calm
Yesterday I watched the most chaotic baseball game I think I've ever witnessed that took my emotions from highs to lows several times! Losing, coming back, tied, going way up, losing in the last 3 outs....ughh...ahhh...what?!?! I was anxious watching it, so of course had to munch on some goodies to calm my nerves. SO disappointing that we ended up losing after being ahead 4 runs in the 9th. But, I had a birthday party to go to....
It was onto my oldest nephew's birthday! He turned 10 yesterday and the whole family was there to help him celebrate! With two 7 year olds, a 10 year old, a 2 year old and a 23 month year old it was loud...and louder! Chaotic at times! Kids yelling, laughing, dancing, running around...chaotic! But, we wouldn't have it any other way!
So, where's the calm? Well, today was a calm day and and I even stayed calm while my baseball team played their last game of the regular season...because I didn't watch it! But, my dad kept me up to date calling in with regular updates while mom and I really did do some relaxing at the reflexology place. Sooo much better! And see, my team won and clinched their division! In my happy zen place....
There's always calm after the storm (they say) and it's true. Even though I was completely disappointed and shocked we lost, all was well in the end...as it normally turns out. So, I hope whatever the week ahead brings for you that no matter what chaos ensues, you're comforted in the fact that the calm will soon follow. So, take heart, gut it out if you have to and find your calm in the craziness! Blessings for a CALM week!!
It was onto my oldest nephew's birthday! He turned 10 yesterday and the whole family was there to help him celebrate! With two 7 year olds, a 10 year old, a 2 year old and a 23 month year old it was loud...and louder! Chaotic at times! Kids yelling, laughing, dancing, running around...chaotic! But, we wouldn't have it any other way!
So, where's the calm? Well, today was a calm day and and I even stayed calm while my baseball team played their last game of the regular season...because I didn't watch it! But, my dad kept me up to date calling in with regular updates while mom and I really did do some relaxing at the reflexology place. Sooo much better! And see, my team won and clinched their division! In my happy zen place....
There's always calm after the storm (they say) and it's true. Even though I was completely disappointed and shocked we lost, all was well in the end...as it normally turns out. So, I hope whatever the week ahead brings for you that no matter what chaos ensues, you're comforted in the fact that the calm will soon follow. So, take heart, gut it out if you have to and find your calm in the craziness! Blessings for a CALM week!!
Wednesday, September 30, 2015
Finally Did It....
A couple of posts back, I wrote about not sending in a DNA kit I had received several months prior. Well, last week I finally did it! Why now? Did I finally get enough courage to do it? Did I have a sudden urge to really know what my DNA make-up entails? Or did I just get annoyed with the kit taking up room on my counter? Maybe a little of all of the above.
Either way, I mailed it in and now just wait. What will I find out? What will change when I find out the results? Who knows, but to be honest with you I actually haven't thought about it since I sent it in. So, I'm not sure what that says about it...perhaps I've just been too busy and simply forgot about it or perhaps I'm just blocking it out of my mind until I actually see the results. I don't see the need in worrying or wondering too much on it in the meantime, so I'll just wait until I see the results.
But, I won't lie...it is a little scary thinking about it. Sometimes the saying is on point..."what you don't know won't hurt you." I think that's kinda of been where my mindset has been for a long time, so now actually taking the steps to KNOW more information about my background and potential relatives makes me a little anxious. But, I guess I'll know soon and then we'll see where I want to go from there...baby steps.
It's all part of the journey. Different and the same for all of us. We all have our own timetables. Don't rush yours. Finding answers takes time, so do it when you are truly ready. Ready for ALL the possible answers you'll get back. Just be prepared for it all and trust in your gut...your soul and your heart. Good luck in your journey to finding out answers to your questions!
Blessings to you on this final day of September! Happy Fall!!
Either way, I mailed it in and now just wait. What will I find out? What will change when I find out the results? Who knows, but to be honest with you I actually haven't thought about it since I sent it in. So, I'm not sure what that says about it...perhaps I've just been too busy and simply forgot about it or perhaps I'm just blocking it out of my mind until I actually see the results. I don't see the need in worrying or wondering too much on it in the meantime, so I'll just wait until I see the results.
But, I won't lie...it is a little scary thinking about it. Sometimes the saying is on point..."what you don't know won't hurt you." I think that's kinda of been where my mindset has been for a long time, so now actually taking the steps to KNOW more information about my background and potential relatives makes me a little anxious. But, I guess I'll know soon and then we'll see where I want to go from there...baby steps.
It's all part of the journey. Different and the same for all of us. We all have our own timetables. Don't rush yours. Finding answers takes time, so do it when you are truly ready. Ready for ALL the possible answers you'll get back. Just be prepared for it all and trust in your gut...your soul and your heart. Good luck in your journey to finding out answers to your questions!
Blessings to you on this final day of September! Happy Fall!!
Sunday, September 27, 2015
The People's Pope
I just watched Pope Francis' final mass during his trip in the U.S. I've been watching the significance of his visit to the U.S. and the many different places that he has visited while here, such as the 9/11 memorial. There were SO many significance moments during his trip (the White House, Congress, the UN, etc) and numerous calls to action and reminders of how we should all treat one another...the golden rule, "do unto others as you would have them do unto you."
He truly brought a message of peace, unity, compassion, kindness and love to us all! I think it's something we all needed...the gentle reminder to respect one another, no matter our differences. If we all lived by this rule just think how different daily life could be...how much more positive, respectful and understanding life would be.
He brought SO many great messages and lessons to all of us. And, I love that we were all so eager to hear his messages...straining to listen to every word, leaning in to hear him speak in English (at times just for us) and being so quiet to hear his every word. He was so personable and likable that you can't help but love him....which in turn renews your vigor for Christianity and hopefully your faith in humanity. He showed us the way...the way to hopefulness, steadfast faith and love for one another. Such a shining example of God's love and human kindness!
My faith has definitely been renewed, re-energized and it makes me want to become a better person...a more faithful servant of God. I hope that all who had the glorious opportunity to see him in person and those that saw him on TV over the past several days, take heed of his messages, look inside themselves and walk in his shining example. Blessed be to God for the leadership and strength of Pope Francis. Please continue to bless him and allow him to shine the light of the Lord brightly wherever he goes!
I hope you have a joyful last week of September and blessings for a God-filled, Pope inspired life of happiness, service to others and love for one another!!
He truly brought a message of peace, unity, compassion, kindness and love to us all! I think it's something we all needed...the gentle reminder to respect one another, no matter our differences. If we all lived by this rule just think how different daily life could be...how much more positive, respectful and understanding life would be.
He brought SO many great messages and lessons to all of us. And, I love that we were all so eager to hear his messages...straining to listen to every word, leaning in to hear him speak in English (at times just for us) and being so quiet to hear his every word. He was so personable and likable that you can't help but love him....which in turn renews your vigor for Christianity and hopefully your faith in humanity. He showed us the way...the way to hopefulness, steadfast faith and love for one another. Such a shining example of God's love and human kindness!
My faith has definitely been renewed, re-energized and it makes me want to become a better person...a more faithful servant of God. I hope that all who had the glorious opportunity to see him in person and those that saw him on TV over the past several days, take heed of his messages, look inside themselves and walk in his shining example. Blessed be to God for the leadership and strength of Pope Francis. Please continue to bless him and allow him to shine the light of the Lord brightly wherever he goes!
I hope you have a joyful last week of September and blessings for a God-filled, Pope inspired life of happiness, service to others and love for one another!!
Wednesday, September 23, 2015
Not So Friendly...
I made a quick trip up to my local grocery store this afternoon and the check-out lane I ended up in had a middle-aged Asian woman cashier. I had seen her a few weeks ago getting trained by another cashier, but this was the first time I had been checked out by her. As I placed my items on the counter, she didn't say hi or ask me how I was doing as most cashiers do. She just looked down, scanned all my items and bagged them. The only time she really spoke was to tell me the final price, but even that was quiet and faint. As I took my bags, I smiled and said thank you and walked away. But, as I was walking away I wondered if I ever appeared to be that cold or aloof. I know some Asians tend to be quiet or stay to themselves, which sometimes comes off as cold or even heartless to others. Sometimes we can look stern or too serious when really it's just our normal expression. I'm sure I have come off as cold to others before...sometimes intended, sometimes not!
But, this Asian woman stuck out to me because she had short gray hair in kind of a bob, but she had curly hair. She wore glasses and she also wore latex gloves, which was kind of strange and a first...but I totally get it. She wasn't very friendly which made me wonder why she choose that job since it deals with interacting with people all day...and she really didn't seem like a people person. But, I don't know her story or why she would choose this job. I just know it made me question how others perceive my facial expressions and how those expressions can be interpreted differently just because of your race. Sound familiar to anyone?
I hope you're having a wonderful week and I wish you many blessings on this first day of Fall (in the States)!
But, this Asian woman stuck out to me because she had short gray hair in kind of a bob, but she had curly hair. She wore glasses and she also wore latex gloves, which was kind of strange and a first...but I totally get it. She wasn't very friendly which made me wonder why she choose that job since it deals with interacting with people all day...and she really didn't seem like a people person. But, I don't know her story or why she would choose this job. I just know it made me question how others perceive my facial expressions and how those expressions can be interpreted differently just because of your race. Sound familiar to anyone?
I hope you're having a wonderful week and I wish you many blessings on this first day of Fall (in the States)!
Sunday, September 20, 2015
Time Flies!
I was reminded this last week (from Facebook) that it was 2 years ago that I held my 1st book signing in my hometown. I wrote about it and posted the link to my blog entry from that exciting time last week, as well. Wow, how time flies!
I can't believe it's been 2 years ago already! I've been an author for 2 years now...ha! I don't feel any different and as I reminded myself the other day "you don't get rich from writing a book!" I knew that going into it and it wasn't even a part of my thought process or motivation to write my book. I knew it wasn't my golden ticket. I just wanted to share my story with others in hopes that it would encourage, inspire and give hope to others who are adopted, who are thinking about adopting or who always wondered what it was like to grow up being adopted. Plain and simple.
But here I am 2 years later and I've been wondering "what next?" A new book...no, it's too early for that. Honestly, I really need to get more visibility to my book and my story! I need to get back into full force marketing mode! It's been on my to-do list forever and I just need to commit the time and make it happen. So, hopefully through the end of the year I've made some progress there. Wish me luck and let me know if there are any opportunities in your area...book fairs/festivals, etc.
As I've been reminiscing lately on an opportunity and an experience I never thought would be part of my life journey, I'm truly thankful and blessed. And, as I said when I started this journey, who know what else will come from it!
Reach for your dreams, new opportunities and roll with it! You never know what might come from it...what new doors might open! Wishing you many blessings this week and for seeking out new adventures!
I can't believe it's been 2 years ago already! I've been an author for 2 years now...ha! I don't feel any different and as I reminded myself the other day "you don't get rich from writing a book!" I knew that going into it and it wasn't even a part of my thought process or motivation to write my book. I knew it wasn't my golden ticket. I just wanted to share my story with others in hopes that it would encourage, inspire and give hope to others who are adopted, who are thinking about adopting or who always wondered what it was like to grow up being adopted. Plain and simple.
But here I am 2 years later and I've been wondering "what next?" A new book...no, it's too early for that. Honestly, I really need to get more visibility to my book and my story! I need to get back into full force marketing mode! It's been on my to-do list forever and I just need to commit the time and make it happen. So, hopefully through the end of the year I've made some progress there. Wish me luck and let me know if there are any opportunities in your area...book fairs/festivals, etc.
As I've been reminiscing lately on an opportunity and an experience I never thought would be part of my life journey, I'm truly thankful and blessed. And, as I said when I started this journey, who know what else will come from it!
Reach for your dreams, new opportunities and roll with it! You never know what might come from it...what new doors might open! Wishing you many blessings this week and for seeking out new adventures!
Thursday, September 17, 2015
Hiccup on Hump Day
Was yesterday Wednesday?! It totally didn't register as I think my head was in a fog all day. Does that ever happen to you? So, I really don't know where my time went or where my head was yesterday, but I think I'm back to "normal" today.
What is "normal?" That's a good question...different for everyone I suppose. These days I've been trying to make small changes in my day to switch things up, kick-start a change, or simply just try something different. That's what life is all about, right? Although, we all get into our daily habits and patterns that are easy and comfortable to fall back into. It's just how we operate day-to-day. It's our daily "norm".
But, they say if you want different results or outcomes you have to do things differently. I've been trying that and I really haven't seen anything different come from it, so I fall back into my usual habits. So, what makes a change? What changes? How do you shift the balance, the universe to align with your new goals, hopes, dreams? Anyone?
I think we need to do new things, try new things to grow, experience all that life has to offer and if we end up changing somehow in the process that's what it was supposed to be. Sometimes we try to hard to force the change and then it never happens. Maybe I'm trying too hard and forcing the issue. Maybe I just need to relax and enjoy life a bit more. Genius thought, huh? Not an epiphany, just a good reminder to not hold onto to things so tightly and just breathe. Be present. Be mindful. Just be.
So, here's wishing you a clear and present mind going into the weekend. Blessings for a safe, fun and laugh-filled end of the week!!
Sunday, September 13, 2015
Remembering...
On Friday, we all paused in our own ways to remember 9/11/01. It's been 14 years since that horrendous day unfolded. I had just gotten back from a run around my neighborhood and was watching the morning news show...and then I was glued in front of my TV for the rest of the day...barely moving. Horrified.
No matter where you were that day those images will never go away. And, the people that were lost and their stories will never be forgotten.
I was also reminded today (by Facebook, of course) that it was 2 years ago today that I held my 1st book signing in my hometown! I was just thinking about it the other day and how perfect the day was. I really didn't know what to expect that morning as we were getting ready at my aunt's house, but I was excited and nervous! Excited to see family and friends, but nervous, too. I couldn't believe all the support and love from SO many people...people we hadn't seen since we moved to TX almost 30 years ago! It was an amazing day that filled my heart with so much joy and gratitude I can't even tell you....
Well, actually I can! Check out my post detailing that wonderful day: http://kfenneman.blogspot.com/2013/09/my-1st-book-signingtruly-grateful.html
Have a blessed week ahead and make amazing memories that will last forever!!
No matter where you were that day those images will never go away. And, the people that were lost and their stories will never be forgotten.
I was also reminded today (by Facebook, of course) that it was 2 years ago today that I held my 1st book signing in my hometown! I was just thinking about it the other day and how perfect the day was. I really didn't know what to expect that morning as we were getting ready at my aunt's house, but I was excited and nervous! Excited to see family and friends, but nervous, too. I couldn't believe all the support and love from SO many people...people we hadn't seen since we moved to TX almost 30 years ago! It was an amazing day that filled my heart with so much joy and gratitude I can't even tell you....
Well, actually I can! Check out my post detailing that wonderful day: http://kfenneman.blogspot.com/2013/09/my-1st-book-signingtruly-grateful.html
Have a blessed week ahead and make amazing memories that will last forever!!
Wednesday, September 9, 2015
Time Management
I'm halfway through my much needed 'mental health' break this week and I'm finding my time management isn't very good...well, my intentions and my plans are good, but my execution is lacking a bit! I've had a list of things to do during my week of vacation and I don't feel like I've made a dent yet. Maybe my list was too aggressive to get done in a week or maybe I haven't hit it hard enough to make that dent yet. In any case, I've got 4 more days to be more productive!
We always hear about work life balance and I think I'm pretty good about that, but somehow I feel like my 'at home' to-do list has grown out of control...or I'm just really behind! Either way, such is life...there's either too much going on or nothing at all...and sometimes all at the same time!
How are your time management skills? I think we often think it'll take less time to do something than it turns out to be (prime example of undertaking a project that takes longer than one thinks is my dad!) and we don't realize it until we're rushing to finish. But, at least we have projects to do, right? We know how to keep ourselves busy...or maybe that's the problem...we always find something else to do. I've always been that way. I could always find something to do when I was growing up and could spend hours just playing by myself. It's called imagination and I'm not sure kids use it enough these days with all the technology consuming their minds. Hopefully, my tendency to do something translates to a lot of things checked off my to-do list by the end of this weekend!
Wish me luck and hopefully you're having a productive week! Blessings to you for the rest of the week...and into football season!!
We always hear about work life balance and I think I'm pretty good about that, but somehow I feel like my 'at home' to-do list has grown out of control...or I'm just really behind! Either way, such is life...there's either too much going on or nothing at all...and sometimes all at the same time!
How are your time management skills? I think we often think it'll take less time to do something than it turns out to be (prime example of undertaking a project that takes longer than one thinks is my dad!) and we don't realize it until we're rushing to finish. But, at least we have projects to do, right? We know how to keep ourselves busy...or maybe that's the problem...we always find something else to do. I've always been that way. I could always find something to do when I was growing up and could spend hours just playing by myself. It's called imagination and I'm not sure kids use it enough these days with all the technology consuming their minds. Hopefully, my tendency to do something translates to a lot of things checked off my to-do list by the end of this weekend!
Wish me luck and hopefully you're having a productive week! Blessings to you for the rest of the week...and into football season!!
Monday, September 7, 2015
Happy Labor Day!
I think I must have had vacation/holiday brain yesterday as I'm a little late with my post. I'm trying to down shift to vacation mode, but I've got so many things I want and need to get done during my vacation that this isn't really going to be a relaxing one. I'm hoping it'll be a productive one...with a little bit of fun mixed in! But, I've got a long to-do list and I'm debating on where to start this morning.
But, for those in the U.S. enjoy your 3-day weekend and all the Labor Day festivities you have planned for the day...parades, picnics, etc! Rest up, recharge and get excited about fall coming! Fall is my favorite time of year...cooler weather, fall leaves, hot chocolate, football, and pumpkin anything (meaning, mainly food)!
So, Happy Labor Day and many blessings for the week ahead!! Enjoy!
But, for those in the U.S. enjoy your 3-day weekend and all the Labor Day festivities you have planned for the day...parades, picnics, etc! Rest up, recharge and get excited about fall coming! Fall is my favorite time of year...cooler weather, fall leaves, hot chocolate, football, and pumpkin anything (meaning, mainly food)!
So, Happy Labor Day and many blessings for the week ahead!! Enjoy!
Thursday, September 3, 2015
Mental Health Break
There are times throughout the year where I just need a break...a break from work, the daily grind of life and everything else. I call them my need for a "mental health break." I'm at that point...actually I was at this point 3 weeks ago, but am now just about to get my break! 2 more days of work.
I think we all look forward to vacations and trips to other places to enjoy a new environment, culture and new adventures, but sometimes taking a break and staying at home to get ALL the things done that you've been putting off or haven't had the time to finish is much needed, too. That's what my next week will be filled with...getting done ALL the things I've put to the side or haven't gotten to yet because I haven't had the time to focus on it. I'm excited...just as if I were traveling to another place. Will it be totally relaxing and recharging? Maybe not relaxing, but it will recharge me....to check off things from my to-do list is always an energy booster for me. So, bring on my mental health break!!
How do you handle much needed time off from work? Short weekend trip? Mini staycations? They are all much needed, well deserved and MUST be done in order to regroup and refocus ourselves for our own sanity's sake! So, plan your own mental health break...it could be just a day or you may need a longer break like me (at the moment). Get your "groove" back and enjoy what life has to offer...take time for yourself!!
Blessings to you this first week of September! Bring on fall!!
I think we all look forward to vacations and trips to other places to enjoy a new environment, culture and new adventures, but sometimes taking a break and staying at home to get ALL the things done that you've been putting off or haven't had the time to finish is much needed, too. That's what my next week will be filled with...getting done ALL the things I've put to the side or haven't gotten to yet because I haven't had the time to focus on it. I'm excited...just as if I were traveling to another place. Will it be totally relaxing and recharging? Maybe not relaxing, but it will recharge me....to check off things from my to-do list is always an energy booster for me. So, bring on my mental health break!!
How do you handle much needed time off from work? Short weekend trip? Mini staycations? They are all much needed, well deserved and MUST be done in order to regroup and refocus ourselves for our own sanity's sake! So, plan your own mental health break...it could be just a day or you may need a longer break like me (at the moment). Get your "groove" back and enjoy what life has to offer...take time for yourself!!
Blessings to you this first week of September! Bring on fall!!
Sunday, August 30, 2015
Sign on My Forehead?
Sometimes I wonder if I have a "I'm Korean" sign on my forehead. Really, that's only when I'm around other Asians and they know that I'm Korean. How do they know? What is it? What feature gives it away? I've written about this in previous blogs, but no one has been able to definitively tell me what the give away is...what tips people off that I'm Korean?!
And, when someone guesses that I'm Korean right off the bat I do ask them how they know, but most just say they could just tell. Gee, thanks a lot...that doesn't help me at all! Although, in a previous post just recently I wrote about the guy in the nail salon that told me that he knew because my skin was so "white"...ha!
Well, today I tried a new reflexology place and when I went to check out the guy standing behind the counter said "You're Korean." Not a 'hi, how are you' or 'hello' or 'everything ok' or anything like that....just "You're Korean." When people do that I always wonder first off "Is that good or bad?" But, then I just have to follow the tone of the statement...was that a question, a matter of fact statement or are you mocking me? It's the on-going question I think I'll have forever...unless you can tell me what the tip off is...anyone?
Hopefully one day I'll come across someone who can give me that definitive answer, but until then I'll keep asking...and being a little bit annoyed at first. ;-) Sometimes I wish I had that "radar vision" that told me if you are Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Taiwanese, etc. But alas, my "Asian vision" isn't very well tuned.
The end of August is upon us, so enjoy the last day of the month and wishing you many blessings for the month ahead!!
And, when someone guesses that I'm Korean right off the bat I do ask them how they know, but most just say they could just tell. Gee, thanks a lot...that doesn't help me at all! Although, in a previous post just recently I wrote about the guy in the nail salon that told me that he knew because my skin was so "white"...ha!
Well, today I tried a new reflexology place and when I went to check out the guy standing behind the counter said "You're Korean." Not a 'hi, how are you' or 'hello' or 'everything ok' or anything like that....just "You're Korean." When people do that I always wonder first off "Is that good or bad?" But, then I just have to follow the tone of the statement...was that a question, a matter of fact statement or are you mocking me? It's the on-going question I think I'll have forever...unless you can tell me what the tip off is...anyone?
Hopefully one day I'll come across someone who can give me that definitive answer, but until then I'll keep asking...and being a little bit annoyed at first. ;-) Sometimes I wish I had that "radar vision" that told me if you are Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Taiwanese, etc. But alas, my "Asian vision" isn't very well tuned.
The end of August is upon us, so enjoy the last day of the month and wishing you many blessings for the month ahead!!
Wednesday, August 26, 2015
Just Sitting There....
I received a DNA kit a couple months ago and it's been sitting on my kitchen island since I got it....day after day. Why haven't I sent it in yet? I'm not sure?
I guess finding out solid scientific information about myself is a little scary...yet, requesting the kit and thinking about the results was a little exciting. So, I'm stuck in-between emotions and haven't been swayed one way or the other to actually do something about it. I think that's where I am at the moment on it. Who knows, tomorrow I could wake up and have a complete change of heart and submit it right away....or it might take me another month or so before I actually do it.
Have any of you done it? What was your thought process...before and after? Did it really change anything for you after you found out the results? Or did it just give you a little sense of peace knowing some actual factual demographics about yourself? I need to wrap my head around it a little more and be ready to accept the results.
Yes, adoptees have a lot of different questions growing up and we all go through them...at different times, different ways...but, we all have the same questions at some point in time. It's whether we are prepared or not for the answers is the real question.
I'll let you know when I actually submit the kit, but for now it's just sitting there.
Have a blessed day and enjoy the rest of your week!
I guess finding out solid scientific information about myself is a little scary...yet, requesting the kit and thinking about the results was a little exciting. So, I'm stuck in-between emotions and haven't been swayed one way or the other to actually do something about it. I think that's where I am at the moment on it. Who knows, tomorrow I could wake up and have a complete change of heart and submit it right away....or it might take me another month or so before I actually do it.
Have any of you done it? What was your thought process...before and after? Did it really change anything for you after you found out the results? Or did it just give you a little sense of peace knowing some actual factual demographics about yourself? I need to wrap my head around it a little more and be ready to accept the results.
Yes, adoptees have a lot of different questions growing up and we all go through them...at different times, different ways...but, we all have the same questions at some point in time. It's whether we are prepared or not for the answers is the real question.
I'll let you know when I actually submit the kit, but for now it's just sitting there.
Have a blessed day and enjoy the rest of your week!
Sunday, August 23, 2015
Being Kind...to Yourself
As friends, siblings, daughters, sons we tend to be more kind and generous to our friends, siblings and parents than we are to ourselves. We tend to be more harsh, negative, non-forgiving and simply mean to ourselves. Why is that? Why can't we forgive ourselves? Why can't we be kinder to ourselves and say nicer things rather than speaking so negatively to ourselves? "You failed...again. You're never going to make it. You can't do that! You need to lose weight. You should work harder." All those negative things we say to ourselves on a daily basis. Where does that come from?
A couple months ago, there a was segment on one of the morning news shows about an experiment someone did with a group of women trying to lose weight. They had them keep journals about what they were thinking about themselves and how they saw themselves. Then, they had those women sitting in a restaurant able to overhear two women talking and one women saying exactly what the women had written in her journal about herself...but out loud! It sounded so harsh and cruel. The women never caught on that those were their own words and felt badly for the women they were listening to. That was a great experiment! It shines a light and realization of how we talk to ourselves. We say things that we would never say to a real friend. We put ourselves down, we don't forgive ourselves for things and we shame ourselves. It's not a good habit, but we all do it. Are we conditioned to it, has it been ingrained in our culture or in our social environments? How did we ALL learn to be so rude to ourselves?!
I don't know the answer to that, but I do know that I don't give myself a break. I'm my harshest critic and I don't let myself off the hook. That's not what God meant for our daily lives or for our growth journeys...according to a minister I heard on TV this morning. God wants us to know that we all make mistakes, but as long as we have good hearts that stay in connection with Him that we need to forgive ourselves. We need to give ourselves a break and learn from the valleys. He wants us to trust in Him that we are in the right place and it's the right time for whatever is going on in our lives...and we'll soon be fulfilled by God's promises for our lives. But, it's not in our timing but His. All Glory and Honor will come to those that trust in Him.
So, my current journey brings me to this lesson...again...give myself a break. It's OK, I'm OK and all will be well.
Whatever life lesson is sitting at your doorstep, may you have the fortitude and courage to see it, work through it and learn from it. May God's blessings lift you up and show you new possibilities...today and through the coming week!
A couple months ago, there a was segment on one of the morning news shows about an experiment someone did with a group of women trying to lose weight. They had them keep journals about what they were thinking about themselves and how they saw themselves. Then, they had those women sitting in a restaurant able to overhear two women talking and one women saying exactly what the women had written in her journal about herself...but out loud! It sounded so harsh and cruel. The women never caught on that those were their own words and felt badly for the women they were listening to. That was a great experiment! It shines a light and realization of how we talk to ourselves. We say things that we would never say to a real friend. We put ourselves down, we don't forgive ourselves for things and we shame ourselves. It's not a good habit, but we all do it. Are we conditioned to it, has it been ingrained in our culture or in our social environments? How did we ALL learn to be so rude to ourselves?!
I don't know the answer to that, but I do know that I don't give myself a break. I'm my harshest critic and I don't let myself off the hook. That's not what God meant for our daily lives or for our growth journeys...according to a minister I heard on TV this morning. God wants us to know that we all make mistakes, but as long as we have good hearts that stay in connection with Him that we need to forgive ourselves. We need to give ourselves a break and learn from the valleys. He wants us to trust in Him that we are in the right place and it's the right time for whatever is going on in our lives...and we'll soon be fulfilled by God's promises for our lives. But, it's not in our timing but His. All Glory and Honor will come to those that trust in Him.
So, my current journey brings me to this lesson...again...give myself a break. It's OK, I'm OK and all will be well.
Whatever life lesson is sitting at your doorstep, may you have the fortitude and courage to see it, work through it and learn from it. May God's blessings lift you up and show you new possibilities...today and through the coming week!
Wednesday, August 19, 2015
Yes, I'm Korean...
Once again, my trip to the nail salon provided an interesting conversation about "where I'm from." An older gentleman, maybe the dad or uncle of the owners was running the water for my pedicure and as soon as I walked up to the chair he said "You're Korean, right?" I said "yes" and then asked him how he knew. He said my skin color "it's very white and thin" meaning translucent almost which was interesting. I had never heard that before, but as I've mentioned in a previous post from another visit to this same nail salon the girl working on my pedicure told me Koreans have "whiter" skin. It was the first time I had ever heard that! And now this gentleman is telling me the same thing. He also told me Koreans are very beautiful...and Chinese women are very beautiful. I don't know if he was just saying that, but he said it 3 or 4 times. It was another very interesting conversation at the nail salon.
What's the most interesting conversation about your ethnicity have you had with the nail technicians (I think that's what they call themselves) at your local nail salon? It always seems to be something new...and enlightening for me these days...which is somewhat amusing and educational. It's also interesting to understand how other Asians see you and what their perceptions are of certain cultures and backgrounds.
As I sit here writing about my latest visit to the nail salon I'm trying to remember the last time I got my nails done by a non-Asian. What about you? Mine was at my gym's spa, but I can't remember another time before that. Interesting.
I hope you are having a blessed week and enjoy the last few weeks of summer!
What's the most interesting conversation about your ethnicity have you had with the nail technicians (I think that's what they call themselves) at your local nail salon? It always seems to be something new...and enlightening for me these days...which is somewhat amusing and educational. It's also interesting to understand how other Asians see you and what their perceptions are of certain cultures and backgrounds.
As I sit here writing about my latest visit to the nail salon I'm trying to remember the last time I got my nails done by a non-Asian. What about you? Mine was at my gym's spa, but I can't remember another time before that. Interesting.
I hope you are having a blessed week and enjoy the last few weeks of summer!
Monday, August 17, 2015
Time Warp
Do you ever have those days where time just goes by and you don't know what happened to it? I must have been in one of those yesterday! So, sorry for the late post.
There are those days where time flies by...years even, and then there are those days that time drags on forever. Time is one of those constant things in our lives. It's either rushing us forward or racing across the finish line like the tortoise. You hear all the time "Be present" or "Be in the moment". Sometimes it's hard depending on what's happening in that moment. Sometimes it's easy to soak in your surroundings and the beauty that God displays all around us. But, sometimes you just want that moment to pass as quickly as possible.
For half of the day yesterday I think I was in one of those vegetative states...just sitting there not motivated to do anything on my to-do list. And then it was time to go to bed! What happened to my day? Mind you, I wasn't feeling all that great either with a headache throbbing, but still....my time was just sucked up in some black hole and it was gone!
But, as we are so richly blessed to wake up for another day...a new day is here, the sun is shining and I have 'time' to be more productive today. Albeit a Monday, I kinda have to be productive since I have to work...but, generally speaking after my non-productive last half of the day yesterday today will seem like a frenetic day!
However time affects you today, I hope at the end of the day you are satisfied with how much you've gotten done, how much you've taken in 'the moment' and/or how blessed your life is. And just remember, tomorrow you get to wake up and try to do better or just keep doing what you're doing.
Blessings to you this week!
There are those days where time flies by...years even, and then there are those days that time drags on forever. Time is one of those constant things in our lives. It's either rushing us forward or racing across the finish line like the tortoise. You hear all the time "Be present" or "Be in the moment". Sometimes it's hard depending on what's happening in that moment. Sometimes it's easy to soak in your surroundings and the beauty that God displays all around us. But, sometimes you just want that moment to pass as quickly as possible.
For half of the day yesterday I think I was in one of those vegetative states...just sitting there not motivated to do anything on my to-do list. And then it was time to go to bed! What happened to my day? Mind you, I wasn't feeling all that great either with a headache throbbing, but still....my time was just sucked up in some black hole and it was gone!
But, as we are so richly blessed to wake up for another day...a new day is here, the sun is shining and I have 'time' to be more productive today. Albeit a Monday, I kinda have to be productive since I have to work...but, generally speaking after my non-productive last half of the day yesterday today will seem like a frenetic day!
However time affects you today, I hope at the end of the day you are satisfied with how much you've gotten done, how much you've taken in 'the moment' and/or how blessed your life is. And just remember, tomorrow you get to wake up and try to do better or just keep doing what you're doing.
Blessings to you this week!
Wednesday, August 12, 2015
Counting Your Blessings...
The first thing I read this morning was a Facebook post from a very dear friend of mine talking about her decision to get preventative surgery (just like Angelina Jolie) as a result of her family history and the pain she's gone through watching another one of our friend's battle with breast cancer and then her sister's battle with pancreatic cancer. Our high school friend battled bravely through breast cancer and it was a shock when she died...someone our age...someone so full of life and who had so much more life to live. She had a young daughter and husband who have carried on her spirit and joy for life. Right after she died my friend's sister was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and her sister was the same age as my older brother. They were in the same grade. So, again someone young...someone our age. My friend was by her sister's side throughout her battle...her whole family was...and brought a lot of awareness to pancreatic cancer. She fought courageously and in God's grace for 18 months.
It's in those moments and now looking back on how many blessings we truly have in our lives that we take for granted or forget about each and every day. And, now after reading my friend's post this morning it made me realize how lucky I am. How blessed I am to have good health and to have to make those decisions for myself at this time in my life. But, she is brave, she is strong and she is a fighter. I know she wants to do anything she can to be here for as long as she can for her children. I'm proud to be her friend and admire her strength in her decision. We all have 'something' going on in our lives, but it's realizing the blessings that surround us everyday that makes it all worth it in the end.
I always give thanks to the Lord for all his blessings every night, but I may see them and say them a little bit differently tonight. So, may you find new blessings in your life but appreciate and recognize the daily blessings you have today and everyday!
It's in those moments and now looking back on how many blessings we truly have in our lives that we take for granted or forget about each and every day. And, now after reading my friend's post this morning it made me realize how lucky I am. How blessed I am to have good health and to have to make those decisions for myself at this time in my life. But, she is brave, she is strong and she is a fighter. I know she wants to do anything she can to be here for as long as she can for her children. I'm proud to be her friend and admire her strength in her decision. We all have 'something' going on in our lives, but it's realizing the blessings that surround us everyday that makes it all worth it in the end.
I always give thanks to the Lord for all his blessings every night, but I may see them and say them a little bit differently tonight. So, may you find new blessings in your life but appreciate and recognize the daily blessings you have today and everyday!
Sunday, August 9, 2015
Mid-life Crisis?
I'm too young to have a mid-life crisis, right? What's the right age? I guess anywhere between 40-45, 46, 47...ha! I don't think I'm having a mid-life crisis...although I did just buy a new car...but, I do feel like I'm at some sort of cross roads. I don't necessarily like where I'm at in life...a job that I don't absolutely love, not in a relationship, not fully loving myself...just stuck in this place. I've tried to make changes, do things differently, think differently, see things in a different way, but I'm still in the same place. Stuck. I don't feel like I'm moving in any direction...just spinning my wheels and staying in the same place. How can that be?
Don't get me wrong, I'm thankful and grateful every single day for what I do have and for who I am. I'm blessed to have good health, a home, a new car and all the general goodness of life. I guess I'm just wanting, needing more in my life. I think that's a normal part of all of our lives at some point in time. And, it doesn't just come around once or twice, it's a lifelong desire in our lives throughout our journeys. We get to one place in our lives, strive for another and then another and then another. When are we truly content and happy where we are?
I've been in that content place many times in my life, but I'm far from content these days. I want more for my life, more for myself and I TRY each and every day to make a change or make a difference for myself and others. It definitely hasn't been satisfying because I haven't seen any progress, but I keep TRYING! Try and again it's all I can do. That, and pray and have faith in God that all is well and he has my every day planned out. Learning to trust in that is an up and down emotional roller coaster. Sometimes I'm totally 'high' on the possibilities and proud of all the good things I'm doing in my life and other times the 'lows' seem to suck me into worthlessness. Am I worthy of goodness? Am I worthy of a happy life? For some reason I think "being worthy" enough has been a constant fault for me even though I know I am I'm not sure I truly believe it. I'm not sure why, but it's there and maybe that's the obstacle I need to overcome to see any true progress in my life.
Whatever YOUR obstacle is keep working on it and keep trying! It's what I'm going to do! One of these days we'll have a breakthrough and see why we had to ride the roller coaster in order to reach our next destination. God doesn't put us in these situations if we can't handle them. He puts us in these situations to lift us up into our glory...into our next set of blessings. He's preparing us for greatness in our lives and I do believe we all have that within us. We all just take different journeys to get there.
So, enjoy the ride...I'm trying...and get ready to receive God's next set of blessings in your life. Just keep going! Wishing you many blessings on your daily journey...to greatness!!
Don't get me wrong, I'm thankful and grateful every single day for what I do have and for who I am. I'm blessed to have good health, a home, a new car and all the general goodness of life. I guess I'm just wanting, needing more in my life. I think that's a normal part of all of our lives at some point in time. And, it doesn't just come around once or twice, it's a lifelong desire in our lives throughout our journeys. We get to one place in our lives, strive for another and then another and then another. When are we truly content and happy where we are?
I've been in that content place many times in my life, but I'm far from content these days. I want more for my life, more for myself and I TRY each and every day to make a change or make a difference for myself and others. It definitely hasn't been satisfying because I haven't seen any progress, but I keep TRYING! Try and again it's all I can do. That, and pray and have faith in God that all is well and he has my every day planned out. Learning to trust in that is an up and down emotional roller coaster. Sometimes I'm totally 'high' on the possibilities and proud of all the good things I'm doing in my life and other times the 'lows' seem to suck me into worthlessness. Am I worthy of goodness? Am I worthy of a happy life? For some reason I think "being worthy" enough has been a constant fault for me even though I know I am I'm not sure I truly believe it. I'm not sure why, but it's there and maybe that's the obstacle I need to overcome to see any true progress in my life.
Whatever YOUR obstacle is keep working on it and keep trying! It's what I'm going to do! One of these days we'll have a breakthrough and see why we had to ride the roller coaster in order to reach our next destination. God doesn't put us in these situations if we can't handle them. He puts us in these situations to lift us up into our glory...into our next set of blessings. He's preparing us for greatness in our lives and I do believe we all have that within us. We all just take different journeys to get there.
So, enjoy the ride...I'm trying...and get ready to receive God's next set of blessings in your life. Just keep going! Wishing you many blessings on your daily journey...to greatness!!
Wednesday, August 5, 2015
Dog Days....
The dog days of summer are here...and yes, it's extremely HOT! We've had triple digits all week and it's supposed to get up to 108 by this weekend. Yikes! Thank goodness I got my new A/C unit a few months ago!
How do you stay cool when it's the middle of summer and it feels like a desert outside? Just standing outside for a minute will make you sweat! I always wondered if Koreans were big sweaters or not...ha. Summer days always seem longer because of the heat and it always drains my energy a lot quicker. So, for the triple digit temps that are upon us I hope my face is planted right in front of a fan and that cooler temps come earlier than normal. Bring on Fall!!
Stay cool out there...wherever you are (of course, if you are around the world and it's wintertime, then stay warm!)...and enjoy the end of summer!
Blessings to you and yours the rest of the week!
How do you stay cool when it's the middle of summer and it feels like a desert outside? Just standing outside for a minute will make you sweat! I always wondered if Koreans were big sweaters or not...ha. Summer days always seem longer because of the heat and it always drains my energy a lot quicker. So, for the triple digit temps that are upon us I hope my face is planted right in front of a fan and that cooler temps come earlier than normal. Bring on Fall!!
Stay cool out there...wherever you are (of course, if you are around the world and it's wintertime, then stay warm!)...and enjoy the end of summer!
Blessings to you and yours the rest of the week!
Sunday, August 2, 2015
Are They Related?
As I was walking in line to take communion today at my church, I wondered if people sitting in the congregation that were waiting their turn or that had already taken their communion were wondering if I was related to the older Korean couple right behind me. When I go to the early service there is a older Korean couple that sit near me. There's space in-between us, so it's not like I'm sitting right next to them, but they are Korean...so obviously look like they could be related to me...and their last name is Kim! Not that everyone would know their last name is Kim or that my first name is Kim, but it's just a common last name in Korea (which I write about in my book, Corn-fed with Rice on the Side. So, it's not like my name would be Kim Kim! Ha!
I've written about them in the past, but today it just crossed my mind as I was walking up to take communion and they were right behind me. I could be their grand-daughter or even their daughter. I wonder if anyone who was sitting in the congregation thought that. I probably would.
When Mrs. Kim came in this morning to sit down, she said "Hi Kim." and smiled as always. Her husband, not so friendly and just walked by and sat down. As I've written about previously, I wonder how they came to my church vs. going to a Korean church, which I know there are some around...especially since they are older and I would guess very traditional like most Koreans are about their culture and religion. So, it always intrigues me every time I see them at church.
Whatever people were thinking is fine with me...doesn't bother me any. But, I wonder if it ever crosses Mrs. Kim's mind, too?
Wishing you many blessings in the week ahead! Enjoy the last few weeks of summer!
I've written about them in the past, but today it just crossed my mind as I was walking up to take communion and they were right behind me. I could be their grand-daughter or even their daughter. I wonder if anyone who was sitting in the congregation thought that. I probably would.
When Mrs. Kim came in this morning to sit down, she said "Hi Kim." and smiled as always. Her husband, not so friendly and just walked by and sat down. As I've written about previously, I wonder how they came to my church vs. going to a Korean church, which I know there are some around...especially since they are older and I would guess very traditional like most Koreans are about their culture and religion. So, it always intrigues me every time I see them at church.
Whatever people were thinking is fine with me...doesn't bother me any. But, I wonder if it ever crosses Mrs. Kim's mind, too?
Wishing you many blessings in the week ahead! Enjoy the last few weeks of summer!
Wednesday, July 29, 2015
Two Birthdays?!
I just saw someone ask on Facebook if adoptees celebrate 2 birthdays...their real birth day and their adoption arrival day. Now most people call the arrival day "gotcha day" and they do celebrate both days. I never have. There was never a thought to do so. Even now, I wouldn't do so. Yes, it's a memorable day and I do understand why people do it now, but it also calls out very loudly that YOU ARE ADOPTED! And there's a lot of baggage that can come with that depending on how old you are. And, if you haven't resolved those issues or self-doubts then I don't see how celebrating the day helps the matter. But again, that's just my circumstance and perspective. I know it's very different for many people and every adoption is different. I've said that many times. So, I don't discourage it, but for me it's not something I'd be interested in doing.
What's your take?
Whatever your viewpoint, all are welcome and valid. We all have our own experiences and none of them are the same. That's what makes life so glorious and maddening all at the same time.
Wishing you many blessings this last week of July!
What's your take?
Whatever your viewpoint, all are welcome and valid. We all have our own experiences and none of them are the same. That's what makes life so glorious and maddening all at the same time.
Wishing you many blessings this last week of July!
Sunday, July 26, 2015
Don't Miss Out!
If you haven't read my 1st published book yet "what are you waiting for?!" It's a realistic look into growing up as an adopted child from a very light-hearted and humorous point of view. It's not like all the other books out there about being adopted. You'll laugh, find some similarities (even if you're not adopted) and hopefully you'll become more aware and understanding of adoptees in the future. So, get your copy today at www.kimfenneman.com!!
And, thank you for continuing to follow me on this blog and on this life journey! We're all in it together so lets make the best of it!
Blessings to you in the week ahead!
And, thank you for continuing to follow me on this blog and on this life journey! We're all in it together so lets make the best of it!
Blessings to you in the week ahead!
Wednesday, July 22, 2015
Connecting...
Social media is good for one thing...connecting with others! It brings us all together instantly! To share the current moment of our lives, ideas, stories, recipes, pictures, etc. It's a mini scrap book of our lives that has changed how we all communicate with one another. It's definitely a different world from when I was growing up where we only communicated in person or on our rotary phones.
Now we can connect with people from all over the world, not just domestically. It's not quite the Jetson's yet, but we're making progress...some good, some not so good. Last month I joined a Korean adoption group on Facebook and found myself instantly connected to hundreds of adoptees. When most people join the group they post an introduction of themselves. It's been very interesting to see how many adoptees there are out there (and where they are living now), and hear a snip-it of their lives...where/how they grew up, whether they like and are grateful for their adopted parents, if they've had any hardships growing up being adopted, etc. All those things...issues...that adoptees have to face as they grow up. All adoptees are different and all adoptions are different. I wrote about that in my book, Corn-fed with Rice on the Side, and how there is no cookie cutter answer to many of the questions adoptees face as they grow up. But, we can share our experiences and help one another learn and grow.
That's another thing social media does as we connect with one another...it helps us learn and grow. As I've said many times before, we all have a story to share and some do it via social media and some do it via other mediums. However you feel most comfortable sharing your story, do it...you may find some valuable connections and even help someone else in the process.
Social media is here to stay so just be mindful of what you post, as we all know there can be consequences to things we put out there publicly, be mindful of your audience and stop before you press send to ask yourself about your intentions for the post...if people need to know about it...and does it need to be said by you right now. I heard that's what Rob Lowe asks himself before he presses send on his Twitter posts.
Enjoy the rest of your week and I wish you many blessings...blessings to connect with others to find strength, comfort and inspiration!
Now we can connect with people from all over the world, not just domestically. It's not quite the Jetson's yet, but we're making progress...some good, some not so good. Last month I joined a Korean adoption group on Facebook and found myself instantly connected to hundreds of adoptees. When most people join the group they post an introduction of themselves. It's been very interesting to see how many adoptees there are out there (and where they are living now), and hear a snip-it of their lives...where/how they grew up, whether they like and are grateful for their adopted parents, if they've had any hardships growing up being adopted, etc. All those things...issues...that adoptees have to face as they grow up. All adoptees are different and all adoptions are different. I wrote about that in my book, Corn-fed with Rice on the Side, and how there is no cookie cutter answer to many of the questions adoptees face as they grow up. But, we can share our experiences and help one another learn and grow.
That's another thing social media does as we connect with one another...it helps us learn and grow. As I've said many times before, we all have a story to share and some do it via social media and some do it via other mediums. However you feel most comfortable sharing your story, do it...you may find some valuable connections and even help someone else in the process.
Social media is here to stay so just be mindful of what you post, as we all know there can be consequences to things we put out there publicly, be mindful of your audience and stop before you press send to ask yourself about your intentions for the post...if people need to know about it...and does it need to be said by you right now. I heard that's what Rob Lowe asks himself before he presses send on his Twitter posts.
Enjoy the rest of your week and I wish you many blessings...blessings to connect with others to find strength, comfort and inspiration!
Wednesday, July 15, 2015
Long Vacation!
Exhausted! After driving for 12.5 hours straight to get back home after a 10 day long vacation I'm exhausted...and that was a couple days ago! Now, I'm just trying to get back "into the normal routine". But, it was nice NOT thinking about work for more than a week! Alas, back to reality.
Over the past couple weekends, we spent them enjoying both sides of our families...my mom's family reunion over the 4th of July weekend and my dad's family reunion celebrating his oldest sister's 60th wedding anniversary! Lots of family and lots of fun! Both of my parents are one of five kids, so we have a large extended family. It's been a very long time since we've seen everyone...at 1 time, no less! But, it was fun to meet all the new little kids and see them playing together like I did with my cousins growing up. My mom is the oldest of five, so most of my cousins on her side of the family and their kids are younger than I am. My dad is second to the youngest, so most of my cousins on that side of the family are older than I am. So, it makes for an interesting dynamic between the two families. My dad's side of the family are the ones I grew up around...celebrating every cousins' birthday and every aunt and uncles' anniversary. There probably wasn't a month that we all didn't get together to celebrate something or someone. I miss that! I love all those memories!!
In both locations...remote, in the country, small farming community...I didn't get any cell phone reception! That tells you how out of touch I was for most of the last 10 days. It wasn't until we were in the hotel that I got service. It's good to disconnect and just enjoy the calm, quiet and fellowship with your family for a few days. And, it's fun to make new memories and share some of the games and good memories with the younger kids. And yes, we are ALL getting old...ugh!
But, this was the longest I've been on vacation since I took two 2-week international trips for work several years ago. 10 days is a long time! By the last 2-3 days we were all ready to get back home...and then that LONG drive back was such a tedious and did I mention LONG drive back? I think we're all getting too old for the "drive all day long" trips anymore! But, it was a blessing and a joy to spend time with our family and friends! Those times are sadly rare and not often enough.
So, I hope whatever vacation plans you have this summer, you enjoy every moment and cherish the new memories made with your family and friends. These times don't come back and they don't happen as often as we'd like. So, relax, have fun, disconnect and enjoy your vacation!! Blessings for a safe and fun-filled summer!!
Over the past couple weekends, we spent them enjoying both sides of our families...my mom's family reunion over the 4th of July weekend and my dad's family reunion celebrating his oldest sister's 60th wedding anniversary! Lots of family and lots of fun! Both of my parents are one of five kids, so we have a large extended family. It's been a very long time since we've seen everyone...at 1 time, no less! But, it was fun to meet all the new little kids and see them playing together like I did with my cousins growing up. My mom is the oldest of five, so most of my cousins on her side of the family and their kids are younger than I am. My dad is second to the youngest, so most of my cousins on that side of the family are older than I am. So, it makes for an interesting dynamic between the two families. My dad's side of the family are the ones I grew up around...celebrating every cousins' birthday and every aunt and uncles' anniversary. There probably wasn't a month that we all didn't get together to celebrate something or someone. I miss that! I love all those memories!!
In both locations...remote, in the country, small farming community...I didn't get any cell phone reception! That tells you how out of touch I was for most of the last 10 days. It wasn't until we were in the hotel that I got service. It's good to disconnect and just enjoy the calm, quiet and fellowship with your family for a few days. And, it's fun to make new memories and share some of the games and good memories with the younger kids. And yes, we are ALL getting old...ugh!
But, this was the longest I've been on vacation since I took two 2-week international trips for work several years ago. 10 days is a long time! By the last 2-3 days we were all ready to get back home...and then that LONG drive back was such a tedious and did I mention LONG drive back? I think we're all getting too old for the "drive all day long" trips anymore! But, it was a blessing and a joy to spend time with our family and friends! Those times are sadly rare and not often enough.
So, I hope whatever vacation plans you have this summer, you enjoy every moment and cherish the new memories made with your family and friends. These times don't come back and they don't happen as often as we'd like. So, relax, have fun, disconnect and enjoy your vacation!! Blessings for a safe and fun-filled summer!!
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